“One parent means more than a hundred teachers,” wrote the American philosopher George Herbert. He teaches, educates, and cares. But obviously this is not a superhero at all, but an average person with a lot of concerns and responsibilities. Therefore, we decided to talk about fatherhood on the eve of the Father’s Day, with a completely ordinary father. Our hero Zhenya is a happy father of two children, only from very paternity she is very responsible

“I do not think about what the father should be. I am myself. My daughter is only a month now, and now I feel the euphoria of my fatherhood a second time. For the first time I was also very happy, but then it was a son, now – a daughter ”
“I have two children. Is it hard No, I’m really happy to be a father »
“We deliberately planned parenthood. Wanted children and planned their lives. We were married for three years, and we came close to having children. It would be desirable to achieve something first: we first lived with parents, it was necessary to have something own mother. But then they realized that it was not necessary to lose time and deliberately took care of the planning of paternity ”
“I did not sing under the maternity ward, I was with my wife and before birth, and after, and during. It was our friends and relatives who sang. I attended twice at birth. Even someone from the staff complained to me: “You are probably a physician, if you hold it.” At birth he was not scared, it was terrible for the health of the child, his wife. Childbirths were difficult: the wife lay two weeks in a hospital with a temperature. But, praise God, everything went well. Although there were pediatricians, and resuscitation, scared us a bit, but everything went well ”
“We both were very happy when they found out that we would have a baby. But I do not have any arguments that I should do. This is natural for me, because it is a responsibility. Of course, we have not everything perfect, and there are different cases in life, as in all. By the way, I have many friends who did not plan anything. Well, we have that. Probably I’m a perfectionist ”
“Great family is good. We have somehow invented ourselves that we will have three children. And so we go to this. Maybe it’s immodest, but I have an ideal family: I have a son, a daughter, I have a good wife »
“I do not restrain my wife from working. Once, she helped her get a job, where she earned more. On the new job she had better conditions, a little less responsibility. And interesting work, and, at the same time, not so difficult. I’m not afraid at all that my wife will earn, but I would not want to change roles at all. From my childhood I have been delivered what I have to provide. I’m not sexist, I’m not afraid that a woman will earn, will become more independent, I just see my duty in the family ”
“How to raise children? Probably, it is necessary to be a psychologist, to know how exactly to educate children. Kids just need to love! The son is very similar to me, and I find myself thinking that it is really not necessary to bring up children. You need to educate yourself, and the children will just be similar. It’s a millionth. Son is my copy, he behaves like me: when he does any deeds, and I will recognize myself in that ”
“I’m not an ideal father, I can shout, spit on, and then I regret it. Although I know that it is impossible to scare the child, apply force. But I love to be order, and I can be very strict. Fear in the eyes of the child – it’s bad, you need to have your child listen to parents, and not afraid. It is important for me to have my son understand me ”
“My daughter is still small and I do not know how to bring her up. Probably need to be gentle, I do not know. The child simply does not have to cling to something, she needs to be given a chance to develop. I can really be sharp, it’s wrong, I understand, but you still need to educate – it’s impossible for children to get out of their heads ”
“I have a good father, we communicate very well, thank God, my parents are alive and healthy. They were really trying to give us everything they could. And I always wanted to prove to my parents that I can achieve something in life itself ”
“When I was working abroad, I did not pay attention to what is the relationship between the parents there, how the father or mother behaves in relation to the child. Probably because of the early age he did not pay attention to this. We have our own traditions, our habits, and quite well. Just need to understand that children look at the behavior of parents and all repeat ”
“No one told me what exactly to do to be a normal father. I just love my children, baseless! And what I have to say to people to be good parents, I do not know. Just since when I was born, I became very sentimental. For example, before did not think about the fact that the child in some conditions is not good. Even a strange child. We have noticed with our wife that you start to imagine immediately what can happen to ours. ”
“It’s probably not very tactful to teach someone when you see a person behaving badly with a child. I can not advise, I can not raise someone, but one must understand well that someone’s life depends on you ”
“It’s probably not very tactful to teach someone when you see a person behaving badly with a child. I can not advise, I can not raise someone, but one must understand well that someone’s life depends on you ”
“I still have one reason for pride: in our clinic we do not know that we have a mother. (Smiles) Because I always came with my son: then for help, then the stomach is a son of illness, then something else. I have a free schedule at work than my wife. When the daughter was born, she came to the clinic, and the nurse says: “And so you are mom Demida?” So they got acquainted when the son was five years old ”
“I do not feel a holiday, but I must remember fatherhood not only on holidays. But no, I need to congratulate my father! ”

Translated by Aliona Matushevich