American writer Jean Sasson said: “Birth is the absolute and most powerful manifestation of life.” Therefore, before the birth of a new person, everyone prepares: mother, father, grandmother, grandparents and doctors and doula. We talked about a new profession, medicine, yoga and finance with the mother of three children and a professional dowry of Oleksandra Tymoshenko

“I gave birth to all the children” on the joys. ” When there are no children or one or two children, it seems that three are “wow”, and when you have three children, this does not seem to be something special. And every child made me more beautiful, although I did not understand for a long time, due to what this happens. Now I know that pregnancy is first and foremost a powerful metabolism, so every healthy pregnancy has, so to speak, a rejuvenating effect. I have familiar women who gave birth to six children and ten and they all look great ”
“Modern children are extraordinary, as if from outer space … I educate myself on the principle of free education: I allow them everything, because I respect each of them as a person from birth. I just gave God such children, which I do not seem to educate, but they are brought up and educated well. I feel at all the support of the Divine ”
“I am a financier with a higher education. My specialty is “Finance”, and I need a diploma. Over time, I want to open my own childbirth center or yoga center. Something like that, and for that, I need the economic education I have ever received. At the university I have got acquaintances that help me. In fact, there are a lot of people from my university who are not in the profession of financier. But what I am doing now is very helpful. ”
“My father is from a large family, and my profession is calm. His mother gave birth at home, like all 12 children. And my mother – a doctor, a person of the system. She looked skeptical for me for a long time. And I suffered until I explained everything to her. Calmed down only when I realized that I did not interfere with childbirth, then everything became ok, ok. Still, my mother is very sad that I’m not a financier, says: “Once you come back” (Laughs)
“Doula – it’s not about Ukraine yet: the profession ” Doula ” has no official status, but as a fact there is about six or seven years. And in Zhytomyr this is something new and almost unknown. It is the notion of “doula” that arose as a result of the research of foreign doctors who were studying the benefits of the fact that the baby is being taught to mother after birth by mother on her chest. Previously, they did not do this – they immediately took the kids. Then, for many years, we compared the development of children given to mum immediately after birth and those who were not given. And at each childbirth where the mother was taught to her mother on the chest, there was a woman who agreed with her mother to conduct such an experiment. This woman did not massage, did not help anything, just was next to another woman. When statistical data were collected and analyzed, it was determined that women who were present at the time of childbirth had another woman, all was more positive: fewer interventions, fewer cesarean operations, fewer pathologies after childbirth. Imagined: why so? And it came to the conclusion that when a woman is next to a woman in childbirth, the effect of women’s solidarity, support, and it brings real benefits ”
“Doula – from the ancient Greek “slave”. Doula is not a doctor, not a psychologist, not a girlfriend. This is a resource, an additional resource that helps to give women the most comfort – physically, morally and energetically. Support is needed at all, in any situation »
“Every profession has boundaries, and if they do not pass, everything is fine. Certified Doulas must adhere to the international code. Doula does not interfere with the process of childbirth, does not track their progress, does not assess the status of a woman or child and does not advise anyone. She is just around and helps a woman. Doula is a continuous support for a woman in childbirth. My doctors are treated normally, although at first they asked: “Do you have medical education?” I have little contact with a doctor: I am with a woman – I am her shadow ”
“I do not feel negative emotions at childbirth – Doula needs to be calm. I am often asked: “What do you answer at birth?” For my condition! For my equal state keeps a woman in a calm condition, and sometimes even all those present. When a stressful situation, everyone is stressed: the doctor is experiencing, because he is responsible; The father, present at birth, is also experiencing. And I have to be calm, because you need to be careful. In such situations, there must be someone calm, who definitely believes that everything will go well. In addition, I have my own positive experience of two successful childbirth. From the first time she gave birth to “blessed”, and had all possible interference. Maybe that’s how it happened: if you are paying more attention to your job, and at the childbirth, excessive attention gives you the opposite effect. I know how it can be normal, naturally and without interference. And at all the births that I attended, everything was the same ”
“Every childbirth, even in one woman, takes place differently. And I also had that. It pushed me and I began to wonder: why? I began to understand the reasons for a little bit. There is such an important and, at the same time, simple information about genera from a natural point of view, and she wanted to share, and already at the official level. Since I am a representative of the NGO Association of Natural Fathers, I want to give women an understanding that childbirth is a physiological, natural process, and they can be non-traumatic because our body is given to us so that this is how it all happened. ”
“Now in my profession there is no competition: at the moment in Zhytomyr I am the only certified doula, and this should not be, because there should be a choice. Childbirth is a rather intimate process, so a woman may prefer one to go and the other to a friend. It’s about the feelings. You are what you are: someone likes you, and someone is not. Therefore, I hope that in the future in the city there will be still certified doulas that will provide high-quality and safe family services, and people will have a choice ”
“As a rule, I spend two and a half-hour prenatal counseling, where I tell you how we will work, what will happen, answer all the questions, and then the person chooses whether it suits her or not. I do not force, I do not command, I do not say: “If you come to me, then you will have nothing to do with me.” A woman can give up my services, even at the time when the delivery began: this is her choice. Maybe this is still such a “simple girl”, because it’s not a business approach, but from the soul. I just love helping people even more than I need. And now I’m doing it in such a professional format ”
“Is I implemented by a woman? Of course. In addition to working as a doula, I am conducting VDOH training courses. After the course, the woman goes to childbirth without fear, with confidence and love. The main thing is that pregnant women then always realize that certain techniques developed at the courses became the main help at the birth of a child. And their appreciation inspires me ”
“Doula – it’s very resourceful, and there can not be a conveyor. When you get pregnant, you lose a lot of energy. The norm is the support of a maximum of three women per month, and for me it is already too much. This is a huge moral responsibility: you can not go anywhere, go for a holiday, you should always be in touch. You should be near a woman when her body wants to give birth, and it can be both day and night. Under all circumstances, I have to be near at the right time. ”
“Dads behave differently during childbirth. Consciousness has not lost, but Daddy is Daddy. How much you tell them on the course did not say that childbirth is a natural process, but they only feel ready to some degree. Somebody until the child begins to be born. Somebody embarrasses mom, someone goes away when he feels that it will be better. It happens that Dad “is stressful” is bad for him, and he tries to stay in order to be close. So he only hurts the atmosphere: adrenaline is transmitted, and adrenaline – the enemy of natural childbirth. It has been scientifically proved that the stress state has the property transmitted. When I see this, I say to my dad: “We need water.” Whether I send him to rest, I say: “Let’s alternate: now you go to rest, and then I’ll go.” Some are glad to agree, and while the pope is resting, Mom gives birth perfectly ”
“A woman who is going to give birth must know about her rights. Everything about the rights of women in childbirth, I tell in advance. You need to know your rights »
“My main character is love for people: I like to like people, I want to please. This is not very good, but I found this professional application ”
“I am very helped by yoga classes. When I started practicing yoga, it seemed to have entered the flow, and things themselves began to happen as I needed, intuition awoke. I’m trying to be in balance in any cause. In general, I like to do different things, in fact, everything is interconnected ”
“Yoga helps to recover after childbirth not only to a woman, but also to the very beginning (Laughs). First of all, yoga is breathing, and in childbirth breathing is a super important thing. While doing yoga, we learn to breathe. When a woman gives birth, she has no way of knowing whether she is breathing correctly. But if you practice for a while, everything is just right then: if you already have the skills, it’s easy to use them. ”
“What am I afraid of? The fact that the occupation of the doula will be distorted, and the business will transform that living, natural, as regards the birth of a person. A lot of people are now in Ukraine and in the world who want to unwind on anything. That’s what I’m afraid of ”
“I love Zhytomyr. He is for me as a living creature – good! The old good-looking Zhytomyr (Laughs). I have probably lived here in the past, because I am very interested in the history of the city. I am studying books about the city, walking around his entrances, I’m all about it. I’m walking, but it seems that everything has already been seen, as if I just remember ”
Translated by Aliona Matushevich