Communication with “colleagues in the shop” is not always easy: someone is hampered by competition, someone lacking in time. And if you still have the opportunity to talk “for life”, you need to use it for the full. Let’s say frankly: meeting with Tetiana Bialkovska, the editor of the site Zhytomyr, was not accidental. We were preparing for her
“I never felt that something different from other children. I went to the 32nd most ordinary school here on Korbutivka. He studied in a regular classroom. Even after the operation, when I came to school with a zipped foot, I chased the boys faster than others. It is a matter of fact: if you tell a sad and mournful story, it’s not up to me. I can only tell you the success!”(Laughs)
“I do not know how it happened, honestly! Whether society, or just leadership qualities, may have been high levels of communication since childhood, may be my communicative, but I have never felt alienated. Well, maybe in the “catch” did not play ever in childhood. And this is because I did not like to resort to the latter. Perhaps if I knew that I was going to get there first … (Laughs) I would rush into battle!”
“It’s easy to love a successful child who has already achieved something. The fact that I am so strong is my character, this is me alone”
“When I remember my grandmother I immediately remember her cakes. Fair! (Laughs) I can not bake so much. I am able to cook deliciously, I can cook meals, mushrooms, and from anything. In one and a half hours I will have a full table covered, but I can not do such cakes like it. This is a concern. My baking is associated with care. It’s not with hyperopia, but with home comfort …”
“I live in Zhytomyr, I was born here, I live here. My parents are successful people, but I have my own story. I was raised by my grandmother and my grandfather. They taught me, gave education, an impetus to life, but they are no longer with my grandfather. My father died when I was 11 years old, the day after my birthday”
“The dedication and dedication I have from birth, and education, in fact, there is nothing to it. I always have such a sporty interest, excitement. And they raised me in love. My grandmother was gentle, calm. She always said: “We need to help, but tell no one what helped. Did it – forget it Want to help – do it from your heart, and do not talk about it. And if you helped and boast, it means all, do not do more”
“I do not have so many friends with disabilities – I was studying at a regular school. I know a few people who have a great power of will, but they are actually in my environment a bit. Maybe it’s temporarily, but at the moment it’s just that”
“We do not have everything bad with infrastructure. When somewhere there is no handrail, railing, I instinctively work the idea: “We need to be careful, we must quietly step over.” And it’s very bad that there are places without ramps when a person can not climb. If I personally can not climb where two or three steps, I will go find a place where there are four or five, and there I will go up. And the bogie? Do not jump, do not fly, will not overcome”
“In class, in school, I was always perceived as the most ordinary person. At least, I did not notice any other attitude. Yes, there is a stereotype in society about people with disabilities, which was formed over the years. It is likely that this was a Soviet approach to the problem aspects of inclusion. Now they also look at people with disabilities in different ways: sometimes with pity and sometimes even worse. That’s when I make everyday and habitual things for myself, people say: “Wow, you could do that”. And I sit and think: “What did I do?” And although I did not really look at some kind of myself, but in my back it might well be. Probably they are, but I do not notice them ”
“From my childhood till today I am a bitter: I love sweets very much. As a child, I wanted a “Kyiv” cake. And if we talk about global desires, I always wanted to be self-fulfilling, to be in the spotlight. I wanted to, went to this and now I get it”
“I do not know what I would have taught my children. To begin with, I would teach my parents. Never leave your children! It’s easy to love a successful child, and it’s hard to create a successful person. So far, I do not feel ready to give birth to a baby and I am not at all sure that I can give all that I would like to give. Yes, I have some financial basis, the stability I have achieved by myself, but that’s not enough”
“I had one story in 2014. Somewhere needed a medical certificate. Agreed for me, I came, in fact, not for review, but for reference. And the doctor caught the principal, said that no arrangements are valid – just a review. And then she discovered a serious problem – oncology, a complicated operation. Thanks to her principle, I am alive now. Such and necessary doctors – professional and principle”
“In complex moments, you completely overestimate your life. I then looked at the window and said to myself: “What I am stupid: the sun shines, but I did not notice it; ice cream is delicious, but I did not taste it; You can wash your warm water at home – it’s also cool. Even the bread of a fresh piece to eat – it’s cool, because it is so delicious. ” And everything becomes unimportant. You are, and thank God. Then I got the disease and now I want to help others. I always say that a successful person starts with good deeds ”
“For all who have problems, I say that we always have to fight. Till the end. Just fight and do not give up. You can not fade, you can not be yourself! We are not firefighters. You need to light yourself, help yourself. The thirst for life – 50% of success”
“I always encourage the work of excitement, competition. If there is no competitive moment, I am relaxing, it becomes uninteresting to me. I have my own inner passion, the bar: “I can or not.” This is not a competition with Oleya, Peter, but I, Tanya, I’m cool here. No, it’s squeezing out all the juices, internal competition, victory over oneself ”
“Now I have a man behind whom I am not afraid. And I found him very close. Do not go far to your happiness! “(Laughs)
“If I could fulfill all my wishes, I would have done so that all children had a mom and dad. They are needed at any age: at two years, at twelve. Even being 32 years old I want to come and tell about my successes. We have now abandoned children more than during the Second World War. Gentlemen, make a conscious choice! I still have a desire to learn to be happy. More precisely, learn to keep what you have. And I love traveling very much! I would travel around the world, across Ukraine. We have something to see, such as the Carpathians. There is incredible!”
“I love fountains very much and I really appreciate the fact that Zhytomyr is green. I open the window at home and look at chestnuts. I love the moment when the trees bloom – it’s so beautiful! I watch how something appears from nothing. I am an ecologist for the first education”(Laughs)
“My second education is the University of Ukraine, the Faculty of International Information. I studied for a fee, because it is a non-state higher education, but I do not regret it. The best investment is investment in yourself. Never need to neglect. No one, neither their own abilities, nor their talents. You have to develop yourself!”
“Everyone suffers from rudeness: healthy, sick, young, old. It’s a shame when nobody aspires to help each other: mother with a cart, grandmother is old. Here society needs to be treated. And I really want people to become better people”
“When I was at school, nobody heard about inclusive education. As for me, inclusive education is a very right decision. That should be. It’s good that I lived in a family that decided to give me a regular class of ordinary school. I was brought to an environment where I should then live, and it was incredibly correct. Now, people with disabilities must also be socialized. And everything else depends on society, on the family. One child will come home, tell a mom about a child with a disability, and mom will say: “Well, help if you need it.” And another mother will say: “Even the child does not approach what she came here, why does she need us there?”
“What would I change in my life? But definitely nothing. If I had not undergone any life difficulties, I would not be like I am now. But I would definitely treat the people who are not with me now: I would give them more time and attention, more often I spoke the words “love”, “thank you”. When you are 12 or 15 and you are asked to sit next to you, you think: “What do they want from me?” The new clip or friends seem to be more important. Those whom you love should speak words of love and gratitude more often”
P.S. The number of people with disabilities in Ukraine has long overcome the amount of 2 000 000, and we still discuss the expediency of inclusive education and save on ramps.
Thank you for preparing the material “Beauty Workshop Steffany”, “Im.frame studio” (production of photo books and drawing photos) and personally to Serhii Polonskii and Oleksii Lubiahin
Translated by Aliona Matushevich
